There is so much advice out there about meeting women and dating. There’s complete stories for you to repeat, games you can play, concepts to master, costumes to wear, and everything in between. It’s enough to leave you scrambling for some real direction.
Meeting and winning high quality women really comes down to two core things, though – and everything about meeting and dating women is, at essence, about these two things. When you know and understand what these two things are, you can improve your success rate much more easily than most guys can.
It All Comes Down to Simple Math
Most guys who are learning this stuff want to know everything. In fact, you’re probably reading this because you’re a logical guy who wants to know how to get from point A to point D and doesn’t want to step out the door until you have full color map with all the detours highlighted in yellow so that you’ll be ready for any and every stuation.
Unfortunately, what that means is that you’re still sitting at home rather than having a great time with the ladies. Whatever your level of skill with women is now, you can have more success just based on simple math.
Here it is, the first thing you need to do to improve your success with women:
1) Increase the total number of interactions you have with women. What a relief, right? Because, what it means is that, whatever your level of skill is with women right now, there are some women you could have success with. Trust me on this. Even the lamest of the lame guys get laid occasionally. So, you have to get out there and meet more women. If you do that and nothing else, you will have more success – more phone numbers, more dates, and more sex. You can’t not have more – it’s simple math.
And now for the second thing:
2) Increase the effectiveness of each interaction. I’m talking about increasing those percentages mentioned above so that, instead of needing 100 interactions to get 1 number, you require fewer and fewer interactions to find the girl who is actually really into you. You’ll also have more of those phone numbers result in dates – while a large percentage of women who give you their phone number will flake initially, this percentage gets whittled down little by little, enough to keep you busy most nights of the week, anyway.
And, most deliciously of all, instead of needing to go on dates with 30 women to have sex with 1, you can reduce that number down to 10 or even 5. I bet that would make dating a lot more exciting for you, wouldn’t it?
You need a two pronged attack.
When my father was a kid he used to tell my grandmother that he was worried about becoming perfect. Her answer, “No danger”.
Instead of worrying about being perfect go out there and put those numbers in your favor. You can have more success even if you change nothing at all about yourself. If you chose to make at least small improvements, you can become much more effective, and reach the goals you’ve set out for yourself.
well said RPQ i have definitely been a theory junkie in my time and continue to battle against that tendency. really what you have written is so true. it's basic common sense.
i also believe, even more importantly, doing what you've suggested starts with transcending any limiting beliefs you may have around women and dating. at the very least pushing through those as best one can in spite of their presence.
quit making excuses and throw yourself out there. you told me during the approach mastery bootcamp that i would learn a lot more through doing rather than reading up on theory all the time. i have found them to be quite true regardless of closing a girl or not.
It's true that pushing through limiting beliefs is key to progress. But until you get out there and try to make something happen you won't even realize what those limiting beliefs are.
It's like being in a big glass cell and not realizing it because you never tried to walk far enough away from where you are to smack your face into it.
I discovered more of my limiting beliefs from that nose breaking pain than any other way. Being in close association with other guys who were at this is also huge and is the easiest way to stay motivated.
Thanks for your comment.