How to Say “Hello”

Last Updated on April 12, 2024 by Mia

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What do you say when you see a girl you’re attracted to?

You spot a black-haired bombshell sitting at a table in a coffee shop on a busy downtown corner, her attention is focused anywhere but in your direction. You would get up to talk to her but first you have to engineer the perfect thing to say. So what is it?

The pressure a guy feels to say something good initially is completely understandable. Conversations have to begin somewhere, and as the guy approaching a strange woman you’re pretty much obligated to start the conversation. In other words, if you don’t say something, the conversation will probably not get off the ground. This is where a lot of guys get stuck. A lot of men feel that if they have to start the conversation then they better make their first few words count, they better say something witty, funny, interesting, something that keeps themselves from looking like an idiot.

But why pack all of this into the first few words? The truth is that what you start the conversation with doesn’t really matter. The success of the conversation is not determined by those first few words. There are so many other things determining the success of the interaction (the conversation she had with her mother this morning, the calls she keeps getting from her last boyfriend, the bad bout of gas she’s gotten from that day old bagel she ate) that what you chose to start the conversation with just doesn’t matter.

What you say after your first few words is far more important to the success of the conversation, though. An opener is just a tool to get her attention, but those next few sentences will have a large influence on whether you are able to have a conversation with her or whether she will shut you down and withdraw her attention. Start with anything – it doesn’t matter what she says next. How you respond to her response will say a lot about your character, whether you are skilled with women, and if you’re used to the ritual games they play with the guys who approach them. Look at any negative response from her as a test she is giving you to find out if you are a cool, confident guy. Ignore her icy stare, put on a warm smile and push on, brave soldier.

What you say next is also vital for setting the course of the interaction. Try to seek rapport right away and she may see you as either someone just trying to make friendly conversation or another loser guy who wants to get in her pants but doesn’t know how. Say something funny instead, and you might just grab her attention and hold it for a few moments longer. Continue with a fun conversation and you’ll give yourself the opportunity to build rapport later and start the relationship you want to have with her.

I usually start a conversation with the word “hi”. That may seem too simple if you’re just beginning to approach girls. I had that exact same thought before I started using it, but since the first thing you say never really matters I never have to think about what to say before I walk up to a woman. Of course, their response will vary widely. Sometimes she’ll look up at me with a huge smile and start talking to me. This outcome is both fantastic and rare. At other times, she’ll look annoyed and try to ignore my advance, but most of the time her response falls somewhere in between these two extremes. I’ll follow up by asking her where she’s from, which is usually amusing and surprising since almost all of the women in Korea are Korean. Having sparked her interest, I can follow up with more humour and take the conversation where I want to take it. No interaction I have rests on my ability to come up with the perfect thing to say initially.

If you’re just starting to talk to women, adopt an easy and simple opening line that you can use in almost any situation, then focus on finding humorous observations you can make after she responds. Your success rate will be a lot better because ultimately it’s not what you start with but what you follow up with that will have the biggest influence on the interaction.

3 thoughts on “How to Say “Hello””

  1. Pingback: Why Do I Get Rejected by Women? | Asian Dating Monthly

  2. surprised this has no comments! I always psyche myself out of approaching because I just don’t know what to say to the girl. It’s really crazy how you can get by on just saying”hi”. need to do that myself

    1. I think one of the key things to remember, is that once you approach a girl, you can always leave with a simple, “It was nice meeting you, have a nice day.”

      Approaching has a really asymmetrical risk profile with large upside and little downside. You have everything to gain, and nothing to lose but your ego(which gets in the way anyway) and a few minutes of your day in return for the chance of whatever you could possibly want from a woman.

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