This is a fantastic book. Fantastic as in, I’ve personally repurchased this at least FOUR times to give it to other people because I’ve felt that the information in the book was so valuable that it would be a waste for them to wait a week before they picked it up.
What I’m talking about is a little book called, “The Way of the Superior Man,” by David Deida.
A Book on Relationships
The Way of the Superior Man is by far one of the best relationship books that I’ve ever read. Now I’m not saying that this book alone is enough to save a relationship that’s in a total tailspin — what I am saying though is that it will stabilize things and at least allow you to bring her in for a controlled crash landing. …and it definitely helped one of my married buddies improve his already quite good marriage.
If you’re not in a relationship it will help you gear up for the next one and start it off on the right foot.
Relationships Are Just The Start
This book is not only about relationships, though. In fact, good relationships are just one of the byproducts of the principles that David Deida discusses in the book. Because this book is about being a man, and your most internal native drives. Yes, not only is this the best relationship book I’ve ever read, it’s also the best book on the nature of being a man that I’ve ever read.
And this is important. Knowing yourself is critical for making the best possible decisions to guide your life. Despite what he looks like, this guy can REALLY teach you something about being a man — trust me — and that will help inform your decisions.
If you’ve got a sack with a set of nuts swinging between your legs, this book is written for you. What you want; what you need; who you are at your core; it’s all in this book. That’s part of what makes this book so compelling because when I read it, it’s all about ME! ME! ME! ME! ME! And when you read it, it it will be all about YOU.
Square Is the New Round
It’s not so much a book that teaches you something new that you didn’t know about yourself — it’s a book that says, “Hey, that’s NORMAL! You’re alright, kid. You’re not all screwed up in the head like you think you are… it’s just that you can’t make a square peg fit into a round hole. It’s OK to stop trying to force the situation …just be comfortable as a square and do what squares do best.”
As good as it is, there are some things I don’t completely agree with. In some ways I find it way too conservative and it panders to a mainstream audience when it comes to serial monogamy, breaking up and moving on to the next because sexuality is supposed to be confined to one person at a time.
Any look at history will tell you that is a VERY new and somewhat unsuccessful model for relationships wherever you go in the world. So, while I disagree with David on a lot of his points on HOW relationships should run, he’s right on about your desires, drives, feelings and struggles you face in this society.
My solutions are just a bit more…extreme, should we say?
It’s a Must Read — Highly Recommended
In any case, GET THIS BOOK! You need it. It’s easy to read and re-read (re-reading is highly recommended). Each chapter is a short snippet of only a few pages so you’ll have some time to digest the message.
Leave it on your coffee table in front of the couch and just before you grab the remote, pick it up and read a chapter or two.
I know that The Way of the Superior Man was one of the key stones that put me where I am when it comes to character, and allowed me to go for and have the relationships the way I wanted them — regardless of societal bounds.
This is a great book that I got about halfway through the first time before I had to return it to a friend.I recently purchased my own copy,and can’t wait to start reading it.Some of the things D.D. says have really opened my mind.
Definitely recommend this one. Cheap, easy to read, and great for setting your mind and life on track for bigger and better things.
It’s required reading for all of our Approach Mastery boot camp and Remote Mentor Program Alumni. It’s too good to pass up, and I think that pretty much everyone looks back wishing they’d gotten their hands on it sooner.
I know I did…
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